• Slide 1 of 21: Whether it's most heinous thing you can do to your loved one or a simply fleeting mistake, cheating is a controversial and sensitive topic. The average American deems having an affair as more morally corrupt than both cloning humans and the death penalty, according to a recent Gallup poll. That's a strong stance, to say the least.Of course, you—like most of us—probably have your fair share of preconceptions surrounding what it means to cheat, who does it, and why they do it. But what if you're wrong? Let's take a look at some of the expert-backed facts and stats on infidelity to find out the truth about the wild world of affairs.

  • Slide 2 of 21: You may prefer to believe that cheating is some rare and exceptional act. However, it could be remarkably common. Research from the University of Montreal found that the chances of someone being unfaithful during the course of a relationship is between 40 and 76 percent. The researchers noted that the percentage was

  • Slide 3 of 21: The reason some cheat may lie in a lack of education.

  • Slide 4 of 21: Think serial cheaters can stop whenever they want? Think again. They could be addicted to the thrill. An anonymous survey project by Open University found that online affairs, in particular, can be addictive. With that in mind, once someone has initiated an online affair, they may find that it's strikingly difficult to call it quits.

  • Slide 5 of 21: To truly understand why people choose to cheat, we might need to look way back to their childhood.

  • Slide 6 of 21: When someone is having an affair and risking everything, it'd be fair to assume that they want to end their primary relationship. However, that's not always the case.

  • Slide 7 of 21: The reason that someone decides to look outside of the relationship could be painfully simple.

  • Slide 8 of 21: One of the biggest misconceptions is that the cheater is the more dominant one in the relationship. Quite the contrary. Research from the American Sociological Association suggests that the more economically dependent a person is on their partner, the more likely they are to cheat. One explanation might be that, as a person feels more reliant on their partner, they may look for ways to regain their power.

  • Slide 9 of 21: Wondering why someone might cheat? It could have more to do with their living situation than anything else.

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  • Slide 11 of 21: The idea that cheaters are leading a double life and lying to themselves could be a fallacy.

  • Slide 12 of 21: Can a cheater change their ways? Well, that depends on their gender. Male cheaters are likely to have an affair with more than one person, according to a survey by Trustify. A massive 55 percent of men who admitted to cheating said that they had had affairs with five or even more people. On the other hand, 50 percent of women who admitted to cheating said that it had only been with one person.

  • Slide 13 of 21: Despite it being a seemingly callous act, do cheaters feel remorse?

  • Slide 14 of 21: Worried your partner is having an affair? Well, you might want to take a close look at their social circle. Most cheaters know the person they have an affair with through work, their friendship groups, or past relationships, according to the Trustify survey. That means that if they're messing around with someone, it could be someone you know too.

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  • Slide 16 of 21: How can you still love someone and cheat on them? Well, quite easily, apparently. None of the respondents on the Trustify survey selected either 'no longer romantically interested in my spouse' or 'romantically interested in someone new' as their reason for having an affair. That suggests they were still in love with their partners despite their choice to start an affair.

  • Slide 17 of 21: Your partner doesn't have to jump into bed with someone to be unfaithful.

  • Slide 18 of 21: If your partner is having some kind of emotional affair, it may cut you even deeper.

  • Slide 19 of 21: Affairs aren't always about getting swept away in the throes of passion. Sometimes, people cheat on their partners to get revenge. In fact, 17 percent of people who admitted to cheating claimed that this was the reason behind their infidelity, according to the Trustify survey. The reason that someone decides to look for an affair could be darker than you imagine.

  • Slide 20 of 21: You might think that victims of affairs are quick to kick their partner to the curb. That's simply not the case. Most marriages continue after an affair, according to the Trustify survey. However, the relationship is likely to change. The same survey revealed that around 40 percent of women said that they were not on good times with their cheating spouse.

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Everything you know about cheating is wrong

Whether it's nearly heinous thing y'all tin practice to your loved i or a simply fleeting fault, cheating is a controversial and sensitive topic. The average American deems having an affair equally more morally corrupt than both cloning humans and the death sentence, according to a recent Gallup poll. That's a potent opinion, to say the least.

Of grade, you—like about of us—probably have your fair share of preconceptions surrounding what it means to cheat, who does it, and why they do it. Simply what if you lot're wrong? Permit's accept a await at some of the good-backed facts and stats on adultery to detect out the truth about the wild world of affairs.

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Cheating is more common than yous think

You lot may prefer to believe that cheating is some rare and exceptional act. However, it could be remarkably common. Enquiry from the University of Montreal institute that the chances of someone being unfaithful during the class of a relationship is between 40 and 76 percent. The researchers noted that the percentage was "very high." Indeed.

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Cheaters may not know how to sustain relationships

The reason some crook may lie in a lack of didactics. "We're not taught how to have relationships," explains Geoff Lamb, a UKCP accredited couples therapist and member of COSRT. "We're non taught how to brand them, how to conduct them. But, more often than not, we're not taught how to sustain them. For me, the people who should be doing that job are parents."

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They can't always assist themselves

Think serial cheaters can finish whenever they desire? Call back once more. They could be addicted to the thrill. An anonymous survey project by Open University establish that online affairs, in particular, can be addictive. With that in mind, once someone has initiated an online affair, they may detect that it's strikingly hard to call it quits.

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Plus, it could be rooted in their babyhood

To truly sympathize why people choose to cheat, we might need to look way back to their childhood. "There's also a level of how sexuality is treated in the family unit," explains Lamb. "So, how you are responded to as a person as y'all start to develop into a sexual beingness and if that's welcomed and celebrated, [plays a role]."

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Cheaters don't always desire to finish the relationship

When someone is having an affair and risking everything, information technology'd be fair to assume that they desire to end their primary relationship. Nonetheless, that'south not always the case. "Oft they're not looking to escape," explains Lamb. "But they are adulterous rather than doing something about their lack of satisfaction in the relationship. It tin can have diverse forms."

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They might just want some extra attention

The reason that someone decides to expect outside of the relationship could be painfully simple. "It could be [the cheater] is not getting the attention they need in the relationship," says Lamb. "Part of ourselves gets deadened and suddenly, there we are in that situation, and nosotros come across someone at the office or wherever and a whole new vista opens upwardly."

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It'south not always the dominant partner who cheats

One of the biggest misconceptions is that the cheater is the more than ascendant one in the relationship. Quite the contrary. Research from the American Sociological Association suggests that the more economically dependent a person is on their partner, the more than likely they are to crook. Ane explanation might exist that, equally a person feels more reliant on their partner, they may look for ways to regain their power.

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Domesticity can be a real romance killer

Wondering why someone might crook? It could have more than to practise with their living state of affairs than anything else. "The thing nearly affairs is that yous don't have all that domesticity—mortgage payments, electricity bills, kids being difficult, etc.," says Lamb. "When we're living together, nosotros don't go to see the exciting, romantic, sexy, juicy side of that."

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Cheaters are likely to be unhappy with themselves

"Instead of thinking that the person who cheats is unhappy with their partner or with their human relationship, it is sometimes important to call back that they may exist unhappy with themselves," Esther Perel, a couples therapist and well-known author, recently told Business Insider. Should you exist the victim of infidelity, it's vital you remind yourself that the cheater is the 1 with the problem. Not you lot.

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Simply they are not always lying to themselves

The thought that cheaters are leading a double life and lying to themselves could be a fallacy. "They're finally doing something they want. Paradoxically, while they are lying to their partner, sometimes they find themselves in this strange situation, where maybe for the first time they are not lying to themselves," Perel told Business Insider.

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Male cheaters are probable to practice it again

Tin can a cheater change their ways? Well, that depends on their gender. Male cheaters are probable to take an affair with more than one person, according to a survey by Trustify. A massive 55 percent of men who admitted to cheating said that they had had affairs with five or fifty-fifty more people. On the other manus, 50 percent of women who admitted to cheating said that it had just been with one person.

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Yes, some cheaters practise feel truly guilty

Despite information technology being a seemingly callous human action, practise cheaters feel remorse? "The guilt is massive," explains Lamb. "I haven't e'er come up beyond someone who said: 'I did information technology. I enjoyed it.' But I guess the fact that they're in that location in therapy working on it would mean that they take some concern about it."

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About people crook with someone they know

Worried your partner is having an affair? Well, you might desire to accept a close look at their social circle. Most cheaters know the person they have an affair with through piece of work, their friendship groups, or past relationships, according to the Trustify survey. That means that if they're messing effectually with someone, it could be someone you know besides.

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The person may not be better looking than you

"What you find is that people don't ever crook with someone who is better looking or who is a meliorate performer sexually," says Lamb. "Instead, [they cheat with that person] because there's a part of them that they can express with them for all sorts of reasons that they can't express in their master relationship."

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Virtually cheaters still love their partners

How can you lot still love someone and crook on them? Well, quite easily, apparently. None of the respondents on the Trustify survey selected either 'no longer romantically interested in my spouse' or 'romantically interested in someone new' equally their reason for having an affair. That suggests they were all the same in love with their partners despite their pick to showtime an affair.

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People don't have to have sex activity to cheat

Your partner doesn't accept to jump into bed with someone to be unfaithful. "It could be a friendship or a non-sexual friendship, which is a much more grey area," says Lamb. "People don't recollect of that equally cheating; cheating is more focused on the sexual area." From emotional cheating to projecting their attention abroad from the relationship, there are many ways yous tin can interpret infidelity.

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Non-sexual diplomacy could be harder to handle

If your partner is having some kind of emotional matter, it may cut you even deeper. "[It] can be harder to deal with because there isn't the justification for beingness hurt," says Lamb. "In guild, sexual cheating is condemned, so nosotros take society behind usa. But if there's nothing sexual going on, they're not immune to be angry about it."

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Some people crook to become revenge

Affairs aren't ever about getting swept away in the throes of passion. Sometimes, people cheat on their partners to get revenge. In fact, 17 percent of people who admitted to cheating claimed that this was the reason behind their infidelity, according to the Trustify survey. The reason that someone decides to expect for an affair could be darker than you imagine.

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Most people stay with their adulterous spouses

You might remember that victims of diplomacy are quick to kicking their partner to the curb. That's but non the case. Virtually marriages continue afterward an affair, according to the Trustify survey. Nevertheless, the human relationship is likely to alter. The same survey revealed that around 40 pct of women said that they were not on good times with their cheating spouse.

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Relationships need work after an matter

"There is life after cheating. Information technology can be hard work," explains Lamb. "The most important affair is to understand the reasons and to bring some of that energy that you lot've non been able to express into the human relationship. That's hard work and information technology'due south quite difficult to practice this without a 3rd party."

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